Gay Dad’s Gross Diary Illuminates Dysfunctions Of Buying Babies– thefederalist.com

New York Magazine recently published the sex diary of a 42-year-old gay dad living outside Boston. He and his “husband,” Gavin, have an infant daughter, Sophie, who was presumably born through paid surrogacy.

At 10 a.m., Dad opens Sniffies, a location-based app used primarily by men seeking anonymous sex.

Over the next seven days, he propositions a married man who initially refuses to show his face. He has sex with that stranger on his infant daughter’s leaf-shaped play mat while her stuffed giraffe knocks against his head. He sends Gavin a photo of himself in a jockstrap, hoping he will leave work early. He ends the week having sex with a police officer at a party up against a washing machine.

One infant. Two gay men. No mother. Welcome to the post-Obergefell family.

From the adult’s side, the diary is supposed to read as naughty, funny, and liberated. From Sophie’s perspective, this isn’t a cheeky account about sexual liberation. It’s a record of her fundamental biological and developmental needs being subordinated to a sex-crazed man.